The butterfly affect

In my last post I talked about ‘The Butterfly Affect.’

If you don’t know what this is, then I shall tell you; The butterfly affect is, well, for example, a butterflies wings flutter, and therefore create a hurricane on the other side of the world. Sounds extreme and *insert ‘that escalated quickly’ meme here* but it basically means that something small can create something big, or what you do in your everyday life has a consequence, whether it’s big or small, good or bad.

So everything you do in life leads to something else happening. Someone taught J.K Rowling how to write which lead to some ones happiness when reading Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire (So not talking about me). Anyway..

So just think about it, if you do something great, if you learn something new or do something, anything(!), good, that could make somebody very happy in the future, or even change somebody’s life, been if it’s one persons life, you still changed something and made it great, it’s something you can be proud of and happy and smug about.

But also remember that any bad choices you make can also affect people in a bad way. For example calling someone a ‘twig’ because they are ‘way too skinny’ or even ‘anorexic’ and saying stuff like “you should eat more” are NOT complements. It could lead to an eating disorder, but this is another topic I shall write up another time.

But also remember that a bad mistake is not your fault. Like at all. It was a mistake. People make them. It is not your fault. You are a human being and it happens sometimes. BUT, if someone does point you out for it and you refuse to acknowledge it, then you will look like a bad person.However if you have made a mistake and it does affect somebody in someway or something, then again, it’s not your fault, things happen, and you just have to let it go, and set it free, like a butterfly from it’s cage in to the wonderful world that is out there once the hurricane is over.

(Great segway and metaphor there!)

Any who, if you enjoyed this post please like it if you liked it if you like.

And leave a reply telling me any thoughts about this or other things, or things you want me to talk about, and I shall write you soon,

Goodbye!

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People just have to learn (and learning to accept that)

Hi everyone!

In psychology we were talking about manners, which sounds like a non-psychology topic, and it is…

Anyway, my teacher was saying how she almost got angry at someone for not holding the door open for her when, as she says, they obviously saw her, as she thought that it was just human etiquette, that it was just manners! Then she said how she relised that just because she had been brought up with that being manners, this child may have not, and so there was no point getting mad at him, and instead maybe just approaching him to tell him. Well, she thought this was a good idea until he started moaning and answering back at her, but that’s not the point!

The point is, that sometimes online you may see someone post something or say something that may be offensive, and you may know that it is offensive, but they may not. So, instead of getting mad at them and yelling at them, spreading even more negativity, why not approach them in a nice way and say something like; “hey, that was a bad thing you did, did you know that?” and if they didn’t now they do! And if they did, then they are not worth the attention and you can just ignore them, block them, report them, whatever, just don’t start drama online.

It could even be something about gender or sexuality, some people just don’t know anything about it, so maybe you could teach them, give them a chance to learn. So, they accidentally used the wrong pronouns, tell them, they probably know nothing about being genderfluid ect..

It also may be you that is giving a bad response. You may not know that a certain sexuality even exists, instead of coming back with something like; “that is not  a sexuality, you’re just making it up, you’re probably gay..” ect.. say something like: “I’m sorry, I don’t really know what that is, please explain so that I can understand more…”

What I’m saying is BE NICE and then maybe we could all get along, and learn from each other.

Just, don’t get so angry, and positive vibes and all that XD

Anyway, I hope this helps, and you are a bit more open minded and you think before you act, and I shall see you all over the internets!

Later,

Abbi.

Happy Holidays

HI EVERYONE!

This is of course is my first post, with hopefully many more to come, and I thought why not use this time of year to my advantage and tell you that I hope you all had a wonderful holiday! Whether you celebrated Christmas or any other holiday,or if it was just another day for you, I hope you had a great day!

However, so many people can’t have a nice holiday, or even some nice days, and though many people suffer differently in their own way, I want to do something to at least help someone. I’ve always like seeing people smile, and just the moments where you see a glimpse or in the car on the way to you’re friends, or walking to the corner shop, and you see some PDA or laughter, it’s just… nice. And so I am hoping to volunteer at Cancer Research UK in 2016, and just hopefully do something worth while, and spread joy, and help that charity and help people and help defeat cancer and I said ‘and’ a lot, and I shall also talk about why Cancer Research UK charity means so much to me.

So why don’t you do something to help others in 2016, not for yourself but for others. Make them laugh, make them smile, be there for them in times of need, give them gifts that come from the heart, not just on birthday’s or holiday’s but any random day, and give them a smile on a random day because of this one random thought you had of them, as stuff like this can mean soooooooo much to some people, even if it only affects this one teeny weenie corner of this infinite universe it can do so much, you just don’t realize it, like the butterfly affect.

Any who, sorry for a short first post, I hope to make them longer and more planned and more thoughtful, ect ect…

But for now, I shall greet you again in my next post, goodbye!